As consensual non-monogamy grows in popularity, new research is focused on the ways that CNM couples can improve their connection and relationship fulfillment. Even if you’re monogamous, these approaches can help your relationship! I will get into all the details of a recent research study, summarizing my understanding of the findings, based on my own years of experience counseling both non-monogamous and monogamous couples.

I’m a somatic therapist based in Colorado. I specialize in relationships, intimacy and couples therapy, and every day I help couples build tools for relationship conflicts. I wanted to share one of my favorite tools with you so that you can feel empowered to notice your own nervous system (the unconscious parts of us that can sometimes send us into fight, flight, freeze and fawn responses), and to build the skills to communicate in a way your partner can respect and understan

I believe that nourishing yourself, so you can feel like yourself, is inherently worthwhile. For those of us motivated by relationships, though, let’s talk about how self-care benefits the people around you, and how couples can practice self care.

My definition of self-care is informed by my specialization in somatic therapy and attachment, specifically secure attachment with yourself. I define self-care as anything that your body, mind, and heart needs – that you can provide – to feel cared for and nourished. 

Practical tools to use before and during a nerve-wracking conversation, so you can trust that you’ll show up as the best version of yourself for your partner: authentic, honest, and confident, while being caring, loving, and kind.

Be more authentic with your partner(s) without guilt, fear, or avoidance. you can stop people-pleasing in relationships and communicate your needs in a healthy way: Through the combination of knowing ourselves deeply, believing that we deserve to advocate for our own needs in relationship, and using somatic regulation and effective communication skills. 

Being right is irrelevant when it comes to relationships. Part of loving is opening yourself to what the relationship needs to thrive.

Fear is a tricky emotion. It tries its damnedest to protect us from what we think might be a threat, but can sabotage our intimate relations

This life lesson from dance has two sides to consider: Do you tend towards over-pushing constantly? Or do you tend to collapse and detach?

It seems the air is full of intentions, goals, hopes, and resolutions for this year. Some of these seeds planted now will grow and...

Holidays can be a super stressful time. Let's plan ahead to cope for those inevitable stresses, and while we're at it, let's pla

In my work with women, I have noticed – over and over again – that female-identified people tend to experience less anger and more anxiety t

I've heard from countless clients that they just can't stand practicing mindfulness, that all that attention on the breath and sitti