Confidence to be Authentically Intimate

with Yourself & Each Other

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We love each other, but something isn't working.​

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When your relationship is going through a big change, the uncertainty can be overwhelming. This is especially true when you want to reconnect and grow together as a couple, but you find yourselves struggling to communicate.

 

You might be navigating changes like: ​

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• differences in sexual desires

• opening up your relationship to nonmonogamy

• identity changes, such as gender or sexual orientation

• healing after infidelity or a rupture in relationship trust

• deepening your emotional intimacy after years of self-protection

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At the heart of these changes is a longing to be fully seen and loved as your true, authentic self. And that's a beautiful opportunity to evolve together! But when you two aren't sure what your relationship will look like on the other side of change... being seen as your full self takes courage, and the stakes are high.

 

Sometimes in big changes, all we see are the high stakes and all we feel is a sense of threat. Your nervous system might be on red alert, making it tough to be vulnerable with each other and curious about how you two could grow through these challenges. Communication can quickly escalate or shut down, leaving both of you feeling stuck and afraid of the relationship ending (or afraid of staying in it, unhappily). 

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Together, we’ll use somatic therapy tools—like grounding, awareness of sensation, and intentional movement—to help you both feel more connected to your bodies and emotions. Somatic therapy helps you tune into the physical sensations and emotional messages moving through your bodies—the tension, the held-back feelings, the impulses to move. By learning to notice these somatic signals and tend to your nervous system, you build safety within yourself and in your relationship. That safety is the foundation for being honest, vulnerable, and fully yourself with each other.

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We can't keep showing up as our old selves, in the old patterns.

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In our sessions, you’ll find a safe, down-to-earth space to explore these challenges without judgment. I’ll help you understand your attachment styles—the ways you each learned to connect or protect yourselves in relationships from earlier life experiences—and how those patterns show up now. Knowing your patterns helps you slow down and, instead of acting on default mode, see what’s really going on underneath your reactions. We'll also explore the sociocultural messages you received about sex, love, bodies, and relationships, so that you can examine any unhelpful narratives that might be shaping your perceptions and emotions.  

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You’ll learn to tend to your nervous system, so you’re less reactive and more present with each other, even when conversations get tough. We’ll focus on foundational, embodied communication skills. We’ll practice sharing feelings and needs in a way your partner can really hear, and offering the same by receiving your partner with compassion. This makes the intense feelings easier to tolerate and express without either shutting down or turning into a version of yourself you don’t like.

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I’m here to roll up my sleeves and help you, especially when it's messy and vulnerable. This is where real growth happens: when you face old wounds and stories, build a deeper sense of safety within yourselves and together, and start living into the relationship you truly want.

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Can we both be true to ourselves and still feel connected?

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Imagine your relationship when these changes don’t feel so scary, because both of you are better able to stay connected to yourselves and each other. You move through life together feeling like you can be your real selves with each other—no hiding, no holding back—not just in your words, but feeling deeply authentic in your bodies.

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Your conversations could move from tense and stuck to open, curious, and caring. You may begin to recognize your own triggers and your partner’s, and instead of reacting or retreating, you learn to pause, breathe, and respond with understanding. Desire differences or big shifts in your relationship structure become opportunities for honest exploration, rather than a source of conflict or shame.

Your confidence in sharing your authentic selves may grow, bringing more joy, playfulness, and emotional closeness. Instead of being caught in old patterns that shut down true intimacy, you're building a relationship that’s flexible and alive, responsive to who you both really are now.

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Of course, you will still meet challenges — evolving and deepening a relationship is never a linear process, and neither is the therapy process — but you’ll meet them with tools, trust, and a shared sense of safety that comes from healing together. This journey takes courage, but it’s a path to a relationship where you can both be fully known, loved, and free. Belonging deeply to yourself and to each other, just as you are, fully who you are, is worth it.